Welcome to Marriage Officiant Website


About Me

Welcome to this marriage ceremony web site. I would like to introduce myself to you. I am Ian Loughor-Clarke and am a Pastor of a congregation in Haenertsburg and have done many weddings over the past 20 years.The ceremony is one of the most important parts of the wedding, but I will make it one of the easiest for you. I will run you through all areas relating to the ceremony so that you can be calm, collected, confident and relaxed knowing that your service is going to go just as you dreamed, and as you desire, without any glitches or nervousness on your side.

Your wedding is the most special day of your life, and I’m there to help you ensure that this becomes a reality. You are a unique individual and therefore would obviously like a unique ceremony. Whatever the theme or dress code, I will slot into your program. You will have the freedom to do what you like, obviously within legal boundaries and my statement of faith or belief system. It does not matter what your religious background is or your philosophy about marriage I will ensure your ceremony is what you wish it to be as long as it does not go off or go against Christian principles and teachings and my statement of faith. The ceremony can be as long or short as you so desire and I am willing to go anywhere in the world (at your expense though). The farthest that I have been to do a weeding at this point is Cape Town.

When you see me, there will be no queues, forms, time wasted or anything to frustrate you from my side. We can have an interview in person or over the phone or over e-mail or Skype or whatever is easiest and that is how easy I make the whole process for you. So drop me an e-mail with the dates that you require and if I am available, then we can take it further.

Choosing a small group of friends to stand with you on your special day is difficult enough, but to select that one special person who will lead the group can be a nightmare.

Define what you really want. Are you a do-it-yourself bride, or do you want your Maid of Honour to be your right hand (wo)man all the way through? If you’re high-maintenance, accept and acknowledge it. Choose someone who can truly be there for you, and let them know exactly what you want. If you don’t know anyone with that much time or energy to give, think about finding help elsewhere. Is your fiancé an active participant in the planning? Can your mother do more?Maids of Honour are not supposed to be wedding co-planners … unless they really, really want to be!Tell her what you really want. More than one bride has shed tears because a Maid of Honour couldn’t read her mind. For example: Brides often wish their Maid of Honour will give a little speech at the reception, but never get around to asking them. If it’s important to you, talk about it!

She doesn’t have to be family. Never feel obliged to ask a sister or other family to be your Maid of Honour. If your best friend is up to the job, choose her. She deserves it.If you need a lot of help, Choose someone local to the wedding. No one can do much from 2000 kilometres away, no matter how much they really want to.Be realistic. Weddings are exciting. People are human. When you’ve just announced your wedding, lots of people will offer to help, but not everyone will manage to follow through. Who came through for you before the wedding? Who actually managed to rearrange their schedules to be with you, even when inconvenient? These are the people to rely on.

No matter how exciting your plans, they won’t make an over committed person more available to you. Avoid the trap of asking someone because you think your wedding will be “important enough” for them to “make a plan”, and you’ll avoid all the stress and trauma of a disappointing Maid of Honour. Maid of Honour with a little sign of how special she is to you. Take her out to a day spa, or go together to have your hair or nails done before the ceremony. Pick out a dress for her that’s a different color from the other bridesmaids, or order her a bouquet with some special touches. She deserves it!

If you just can’t decide on one, consider having more than one Maid of Honour. But keep in mind that this can create extra problems as well. Will they be able to divide responsibilities, communicate well and avoid the “I’m the boss” syndrome?

When & Where

Groom’s speech

Before you begin, take two or three deep breaths.
Have a glass of water ready, and within easy reach.
Adjust the volume of your voice to the venue, and ensure the back row can hear you.
Open with something special – “In the last half an hour, three hundred thousand beers have been consumed…”
Open with your hands together.
Keep your hands above your elbows.
Remember to smile.
Stand with your feet slightly apart and knees loose.
Accept that you will be nervous – everyone is on their special day.
Remember your guests want you to give a successful speech.
Respond positively – and with a smile – to hecklers.
Finish the speech before the guests expect.
Close on a high note.

Bible Readings

I Corinthians 13:1-13
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.